Jola

So there’s a video that trended on social media recently where a woman basically says her husband isn’t allowed to have female friends. The video has gotten millions of views and it’s scary that so many people think this way.  Now I understand not having female besties because things can get complicated, besides your wife […]

The pressure to get married is real. I’m at the stage in my life where I’ve become a prayer point for my family. Like my mother’s pastor says, I’m ripe, like a mango. It’s especially hard when you’re a Nigerian woman because people really act like you have nothing of value to add when you’re

It’s hard to love an introvert, I know because I’m one. How do you love someone who wants to be alone most of the time? They don’t pick your calls, almost never want to go out and even when they do, they can’t wait to go back home. First of all, let me apologize on

I like money, and I intend to make a lot of it. So I intentionally surround myself with images and affirmations of wealth. Sometimes I share these online and some responses I get are amusing. It seems like people expect me to be shy about liking money. They think being open about my desire for

Last year, two of my mentors turned out to be the complete opposite of their public personas. If it had just been one person, I would have dismissed it and moved on. However, seeing that both of them had the exact same character flaw made me take a deep dive into my own heart. If

A guy accused me of misandry yesterday. I didn’t even know the meaning of the word so I had to Google it. He called me a man-hater. So funny. Me Jola, a man-hater, LOL. What was my offence? The videos I post on my YouTube channel are mostly targeted at women. That’s it. My crime

I made a strange type of jollof rice today. It was something like what a Nigerian university student would call concoction rice. But my rice had all sorts of meat and vegetables in it so it was definitely next level stuff. Let’s call it jambalaya jollof rice. As I put in the ingredients, it struck

“Let me just check Instagram before I sleep.” That’s what I said to myself yesterday night, and I regretted it. In fact, if not for God it would have ended in literal tears. While scrolling, I stumbled on someone’s IG stories. She talked about people in their 30s being unable to have children because they

I’m writing this at a safe time so nobody can read it and report me to my mother. The woman is praying so hard for me to get married and I’m here on Delilah’s internet spreading contrary vibes. God forgive me. Anyway, let’s get into it. I’m scared of marriage and motherhood. I’m old enough

Change is constant, but we as people don’t like it very much. We settle into the familiar and when things don’t go according to plan, we panic. In 2020, I watched helplessly as my well-laid-out plans fell apart.  Before then, I’d been sure about everything. I was sure about my career, my church, my decision